Any time you still haven’t recovered from the final connection and you are perhaps not totally over your ex partner, then it does not matter just how thinking about me personally you may be. It might seem i am the love of your lifetime, but until the finally love is behind you, you seriously haven’t any company with me â€” or online dating generally speaking.

1. 
   I will not be utilized merely so you can get over some other person.
   
   It might seem that being with somebody can help you stop considering another person, but I won’t allow a guy use me like this. In case you are likely to be with me, then I require you to be fully committed to me personally for no additional cause than that you want me for exactly who i will be. I won’t date men with ulterior objectives.
2. 
   We refuse to be a rebound.
   
   Should you be happy with me since you are unable to have her, however’m settling for a life with men who willn’t truly want myself. I have earned a lot better than that. I deserve true love. I don’t desire to be the girl you bounce to because you failed to improve basket with someone else.
3. 
   I do want to become just girl inside center.
   
   Is that actually so much to inquire about? I really don’t simply want an item of one’s center — i would like everything. If you fail to provide me personally 100per cent I quickly’d fairly you not give me anything at all. There is no place for two of us inside, therefore unless you’re over this lady, i will not let any one of that space end up being occupied by me.
4. 
   If you’re nevertheless into her, then you certainly’re perhaps not prepared for me personally.
   
   I will not be your
   second-choice
   comfort prize because your first option doesn’t want you any longer. Needs a guy who’sn’t nonetheless carrying around baggage from someone else. I’m a relationship woman, and I realize if you’re nevertheless into the woman then chances are you’re not prepared for any some time dedication of one thing actual or serious beside me.
5. 
   I can not treat you, and it’s maybe not my personal obligation to use.
   
   Just time is capable of doing that. You should learn how to end up being a complete person all on your own. Leaping from relationship to relationship just isn’t healthy. Really don’t wish a person that’s injured; if you want to be with me then you need be effective on curing your self initially. I know i can not correct you, and that’s why I won’t decide to try.
6. 
   I will not provide prepared for lady just who arrives further.
   
   Basically’m the girl whom can help you get over someone else, We’ll be also your ex whom makes it possible to proceed to somebody new — someone who is not myself. I can’t try to support feel a lot better only so you can forget myself when you’re done experiencing sorry on your own. We have excessively self-respect to put me in times like that.
7. 
   I understand just what it’s like to be broken-hearted.
   
   I have been through heartbreak, this is exactly why i understand that in the event that you’re maybe not over your partner then you definitely can’t be with me. After my personal breakups, I needed time to cure. I needed to master from my personal mistakes and figure out who I became alone. I needed becoming by yourself so I could heal, and I realize’s just what you need.
8. 
   You wouldn’t manage to totally value myself.
   
   How may you if you are however thinking about their? Sure, you are going to feel grateful you are not the only one, but that is totally different from feeling fortunate getting discovered myself. If you are nonetheless into the lady, subsequently some section of you is wanting I happened to be the lady and not me personally.
9. 
   I won’t leave an ex be a part of my personal love story.
   
   My personal love tale must not start out with the person of my personal ambitions being in love with somebody else. I’m not thinking about a love triangle — that type of crisis will not be for my situation. I am selecting a fairytale, perhaps not the difficulties of a Nicholas Sparks unique.
10. 
    I would personally not be able to trust you.
    
    Precisely Why? Because we’ll always be concerned and question if you should be however planning on the girl. You could let me know you are over the lady, but wouldn’t any guy declare that only to make a female stay? Easily can’t trust which you like myself and just me personally, then I simply cannot end up being along with you. It is not really worth the worry or perhaps the threat.